Exclusive Password file, multiple databases

Okay, I have been trying Google and Tahiti for 2 days, and I can't for the life of me figure out how to clue in my database. 

9.2.0.2 on AIX 5l

I am running multiple databases and am trying to get all of the instances running with remote_login_passwordfile=exclusive.  Most of the databases are running fine, but one insists on looking for the default file name, despite my having provided filename=<filename> parameter to orapwd.  I can't find anything that is supposed to clue it in in this circumstance, and recreating the password file doesn't really so any good either.  Every time I try to start the database using the pfile, it complains about wanting the orapwd file...

All of the other databases are happy enough with what I did.  What am I doing wrong with this one... where do I start looking? 

April Wells
Oracle DBA/Oracle Apps DBA
Corporate Systems
Amarillo Texas
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